“Good Enough”-Letting go of Perfectionism

Perfectionism can often be highly reinforced in society and workplaces. It can lead to high standards, strong motivation, and a desire to do well but at the same time it can be exhausting, isolating, and even paralyzing. As a therapist, I’ve worked with many people who live with perfectionism— and many of them struggle to let things be “good enough” and can be constantly compelled to try to make things better.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re only as worthy as your latest achievement—or that mistakes are unacceptable—this post is for you.

What Is Perfectionism, Really?

Perfectionism isn’t just “wanting to do a good job.” It’s the relentless pursuit of flawlessness, often driven by fear—fear of failure, judgment, or not being accepted. Perfectionists often struggle with harsh inner critics, procrastination, burnout, or even chronic anxiety and depression.

It might sound like:

• “If I can’t do it perfectly, I won’t do it at all.”

• “I should have known better.”

• “I can’t let anyone see me struggle.”

Behind these thoughts is usually a deep desire to be safe, connected to others, and in control.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy offers a safe, non-judgmental space to gently examine where these perfectionistic patterns come from—and what they cost you.

1. Understanding the Roots

Therapists help you explore where your perfectionism started. Was it a critical parent? An achievement-focused environment? A need to feel in control during uncertain times? Naming the origin helps soften the shame and gives context to your coping strategies.

2. Challenging Rigid Thinking

Perfectionism is often fueled by rigid black-and-white beliefs like “there is a right way to load the dishwasher”. Therapy helps you recognize these patterns and practice more flexible, self-compassionate ways of thinking.

3. Building a More Compassionate Inner Voice

Perfectionists often have inner critics that are loud and unrelenting. Therapy introduces you to a different voice—one rooted in self-kindness, patience, and realistic expectations.

4. Embracing Imperfection (Yes, Really!)

Your therapist might gently encourage you to try doing something “good enough”—and notice the world doesn’t fall apart. These small, courageous acts build resilience and freedom over time.

5. Reconnecting with What Truly Matters

Therapy can help you shift focus from “looking perfect” to “living fully by your values.” That might mean saying no without guilt, resting without earning it, or creating just because you enjoy it.

You Are Already Enough

Perfectionism tells you that your worth depends on your performance. Therapy reminds you that your worth is already intact—that you are enough, even when you make mistakes, even when you’re still learning, even when you rest.

If you’re tired of chasing perfection, therapy can help you find peace in being human.

You don’t have to do this alone.